Journeys Into Enlightenment with Janet Podcast
releasing Feb. 25, 2020
Episode 30 Blog Enjoying the
Other
How we
relate in our relationships is a lifelong dance. We are always in relationships
as that is our inherent state whether it be with another person, or thing. What kind and what we do with them and how
they will guide us is individual in our stories of BEing in form.
Our family
life, of whatever kind, is foundation. We are first a child with two parents or
with only one parent present or in and out of exposure or missing. Or, we may
have no parents guiding us, only a revolving band of characters imposed by the
state.
We may have
siblings older and younger in our house to share life with or only on weekends.
We may love each other, we may like each other, we may fight, we may not know
each other, we may feel something else.
Our feelings
will come and go and change and develop and enrich in any sort of emotional
range.
We have our”
perfect relationship” meter running all the time to be satisfied or not. We can
feel loved but not part of the Others. Separateness is powerful. Lack of trust
is powerful.
We can feel
what we call loved but not understood or validated for our individuality. We
sometimes are valued only as part of the Other’s reflection and not for our
own. We fall under another’s shadow. We can feel we are not important enough or
only as important as they let us feel.
Our sense of
Love is bandied about and held cheap. It is not and we all know it and that any
sense of connection is priceless.
We come to
find that birth family is only one way to experience family. Found friends and
community create family be them street gang or bowling group.
When older, our
interactions with others will trigger the old references we have for those
beginning relationships. Themes develop in our interactions. Love and our
ideals of love play out in ever expanding directions but still nourish the core
story we have of engaging and connecting with others.
Relationships
are fixed positions. One way to change your position and role is to start
relating to another and not role play. For instance, the relationship of Wife
and Husband comes in all shapes and sizes unique to each couple. Hopefully it
is an enriching experience for both. This relationship is wrapped up in many
outside influences of society that shift. When we relate to each other, respond
not react, we have more autonomy. And that helps our relationship and our definitions
of what works for us personally.
It is very
possible that the Other doesn’t get your change. They are busy in their mindset
story of Life. And, it doesn’t matter, unless it does.
Others are
not responsible for how we feel about them. We are. Courage is that quality
often connected to change of viewpoint. Challenge does not have to be in your
face, defiant. It can be a subtle ease of being. You have it in you. It just might not be the
strongest awareness you have in this moment. But being able to be in Heart
centered Awareness, and to listen to your inner authentic voice can happen
easily when you realize it is already there and now is the time to listen and
take inspired action.
Enjoy the
Other from within Heart Centered Awareness and see what happens. Be present now.
Janet Barrett
Podcast host Journeys Into Enlightenment with Janet
