Episode 26 Blog Our Lovely Emotional Ebbs
and Flows
For many, emotions are tricky. We have them and they can seem
to rule us so we can create distance by developing logic and reason over heart
and feeling.
All of us will tend to judge our emotions. We can feel undone
by them, swayed and led astray, be it our idea of love and joy or our hurt.
They can take us not only into distress but into the warmth and welcome present
in a smile. They can challenge us and charm us.
They are what makes being alive as Essence in a human designed
mammal more interesting. One thing about being only Essence or Spirit is that
you don’t have the pesky and unruly emotions to contend with. They are important
for a sense of connection that comes with being in a form. Mammals demonstrate
emotions all the times as they are vital to survival of life. We count on others
to help us stay alive and emotions generate the coloration of those
connections. Oxytocin bonds us with love and caring and liking. Other hormones
foster and tender our emotional connections.
They cause us to feel and so often we don’t know what to do
with our feelings. We maybe never learned how to have a way to feel something
emotionally and experience it and then be done with it. We need to develop
comfort with being emotional. Being emotional is not being hysterical. Hysteria
can cause a cringe. And, a tear can be as powerful as a full rant.
We can be quite sexist about being emotional. Men seem to have
one culture about emotions and women another. It is all projection and
assumption and silly. We just demonstrate our emotions in different degrees.
But with the right stimuli, anyone’s emotions can flare and burn brightly.
Angry looks like one safe emotion for men where grief is not always safe for
them to express. A women’s anger is not pretty either and expresses differently
and grief can be obvious at times as it is an acceptable emotion for women to
express. This whole assumption is all very silly and destructive and life
inhibiting.
So how do we appreciate our emotions and neither look to
suppress them or overindulge them?
Love and it's discernments are powerful for connection, tolerance
and ease in being with another. Compassion, respect, appreciation and
gratefulness all are shades and flavors of Love.
Feeling wanted and vital to another is another shade in love.
Having value and held in regard by another reinforces that one has meaning in
being.
In all this there is no doing. It is about being and in
acknowledgement of connection. It is Oneness and Unity and the shared common
bonds we have.
I have not mentioned sacrifice or martyr. For those are
judgement words of attachment about Self. Putting another before one’s own self
and the giving up of being first is love. It is the Essence in Being. If there is a price to pay that is about
attachment and Self again.
How to become more comfortable with
being an emotional creature? Not driven and ruled by them but guided from your
authentic voice?
Learn to Love yourself. Love celebrates the
individual as Self and Essence at the same time.
Make time to sit and access Heart
Centered Awareness and being present. Allow the calm to descend or emerge into
a warmth of sensation. Feel your breath liberate your physical heart and
breathe.
We all have a physical body but
also a mental body, emotional body, psychological body, psychic body and a
spiritual body. Consider your emotional body and feel what you feel. Notice
your comfort or anything else that might cross your awareness. Considerate it in
terms of the other shades of yourself in the other 5 bodies you incorporate.
Compare. Are your emotional energies routing in some way and affecting the
others in useful ways? Just play. And if you are being challenged to connect
this way it doesn’t matter. Just ask yourself “What would it be like if I could
identify easily my emotional body and how it works in me?” and see what
happens.
Developing comfort in being
emotional is important. Using them wisely and constructively is what we are
looking for. Being able to show our love and all its colors and express them is
not bad. It is not indulgent or dismissive or any other word that might pop
into your head. That is Self-talking and guarding you in your story, not your
truth.
Feeling what we judge our negative
emotions be them fear, anger, jealousy, abandonment all come out of insecurity.
It is fine to be able to acknowledge them as it is vital to health and
wholeness. What you do with them is the key. And, so often with acknowledgment,
they shift into no thing and the energy is then freed up.
Emotions are states
of feeling and they will come and go. If they are lingering, then there is
information, or a habituated state engaged. Change it and see what happens. If
the tears come, let them.
Happy New Year to you and Yours,
We celebrate being alive in 2020!
Janet Barrett
Podcast host
Journeys Into Enlightenment with
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