Wanting is powerful. And. where you want from is what is important. Do you want to satisfy your demanding runamuck ego state? Or does your want come from within a sense of harmony that enjoys as a delight in being?
We think we would feel better having it. Thinking and feeling are at play here. Mind and emotions are engaged.
The demanding runamuck ego state is looking for satiation from its outside resources. It is feeling bankrupt inner resources. Something is more at play than just pure enjoyment. It is needing something in hopes of completion and satisfaction. It is looking for fulfillment. It is looking for connection. It is looking to feel love. It is looking to feel worthy. It is looking to not feel alone. It is looking to feel better. It is looking to show those around us that we have worth in our things that are surrounding us. We can be feeling empty. Our control mechanism is stuck.
We are a materialistic society these days. Have and Have Nots are defining us. Life is not always easy when we have invested feeling good and worthy in our possessions and comparisons. We over extend ourselves for the best of reasons, like school loans and our haves are not feeding our self worth. They are destroying and eradicating and upsetting our environments in our need to feel full, worthy, loved.
So what happens when we flip this story of conquest and stuff to fill us up?
What if our value in being was not at the compromise of this planet and our waste and destruction?What if it was in the value of sharing with another, the delight of being alive in some way?
We get it. Love provides a sense of worth, appreciation, value, contentment and safety. It feels good
the delight in being alive and well. We feel complete and secure even when our conditions would challenge us. It gives us our cushion in life's ups and downs. Resilience and tolerance feel good.
It is not in the things we have placed as important, though the sofa will create a space to experience comfort, maybe.
We all have to stop sometime and sooner than later is good. We have to stop and let ourselves value our experiences and the direction and tone they are expressing. Wanting is not the issue. It helps us direct and focus what is important to us. Sometimes it is easier to see this through others and with others as we are each in our creation and can be blinded with a too close perspective.
Yes, when someone is kind to us it is easier to be kind to them. When someone appreciates our work or smiles or helps it is easier to share with them. When someone listens to us we can feel heard and valued. We build our reserves of worth and self confidence and self awareness for the challenges that will come our way. And, they are only the reflection and not the source and reward.
Being present for someone else is free and easy. If you want to be loved, be loving. If you want respect, be respectful. If you are wanting things, what are you grateful for?
Janet Barrett
Life in the Beyond/Journeys Into Enlightenment
www.janetandbeyond.com
janetb@janetandbeyond.com
