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Monday, March 19, 2018

Consciousness and the State that is Love

How we connect to one another is the foundation to much of what is at issue right now in these  turbulent and productive times for us as humans. Uproar invites releasing old stuck energies that we have all been holding deep within. It is essential to changing how we are in our systems of community and society to understand what we are inside as we relate with each other. 

We are not meant to be free of our emotional connections. Logic will never override emotional dynamics. but is meant to run parallel, in tandem with one another. Remember it was when both Captain Kirk and Spock worked together appreciating each other's emotion and logic that the Enterprise was in good command and a safe and happy ship.

So it was not so surprising when the notion of love came up in group this week: No matter the form love is in, agape or romantic it is about connection and at our core. It is in our chemistry how well we foster connection. 

So take a moment if you would and shift your awareness to your core and notice what you notice about love. Many considerations and conditions were mentioned as we opened up as Consciousness in group.

We started with our awareness of love and what we call love. What does it mean, to love? Did this questioning mindset come from within knowing what love is or if it is in knowing what love isn't?

What is love? Love. It is a state of emotion, a feeling of deep affection. It can be felt as putting others before oneself to the cost of one own life. It has no conditions. It is neither unconditional or conditional but that is the way we have organized it. We can love someone and yet not like their behavior.

Most of us have been filled with words of love that have nothing to do with love but some conditional form of it. I will repeat myself. Love has no conditions. If it can be held back or based on performance it is not love.

We are beings of connection and relationship. It is instinctive to do all we can to know what love and care is. Doesn't matter if it is a street gang, robot or a stay at home parent. Doesn't matter what is in the connection. It all gets interpreted as some kind of love and value.

Mammalian babies develop and bond with others who provide regular care and attention.Their physical and emotional development will suffer if connection is not provided or is random. They will die from lack of attention. Babies don't have a sense of past or future. They only know the now. Irregardless if their needs are being met memory is starting to build about what love is. Love is becoming conditional when it is not offered as basic nourishment. Emotions can become uncomfortable and unrewarding.

There is no difference in our love for a tree or a person or a pet except for the form it may take with different attachments. We might value one more important than another. Yet, at its essence there is no difference just different levels of interaction and actions.

Here are some other thoughts that came up to contemplate and notice:

Is there a difference in how you treat your friends and how you treat yourself? For some this was true and eye opening.

Are you free to demonstrate love? In some ways safety came up.

Love and saving another. Love does not save anyone but we can think that it should or that it makes a difference. Anything can happen in the state of love.

Love and actions taken in the name of love are not always congruent. Back to the conditions and compromises. It can all get very confusing what love is and feels like. Behaviors that degrade are not about love but about the lack of love. 

What if our love is not received or reciprocated? How is that more about you than them?

Is love enough? Yes, love is enough. Love allows for differences. Love is beyond our disappointments and considerations that we often mix it into. We can say we love and then hold back. The need to feel connected is so important we are sometimes willing to compromise our safety and well being and call it love.

If you hold one another or this planet in deep affection what does that mean? Do you respect, value, cherish, appreciate and hold in high esteem the object of your affections? 

Notice how you are feeling. Know that what ever has come to mind for you in your awareness as Consciousness is an act of love, of self care. Let yourself release these stored energies, emotions and events into transcendent material.

What would it be like to be love?

Janet Barrett
Life in the Beyond/Journeys Into Enlightenment

Monday, March 12, 2018

Consciousness and the Re-frame

Keepin it Real with Janean,
Your Guide to Living an Authentic Healthy Life Podcast

The link for this podcast episode is.....

We are certainly experiencing energetic shifting sands these days.  We are getting buffeted in many different directions by inner and outer forces. Major ways of how we feel about ourselves internally are getting fresh and new looks at the old stuff. Old events and feelings are being triggered and sometimes released. Here is some help you might enjoy.

Last summer I did a podcast interview with Janean Strong Harris. She offers a lively blog and podcast about living well. She is a delight and someone I am happy to call friend.

Janean and I talk about the art of the re-frame.

We are the human interface of how Consciousness knows itself. Our emotions in our experiences provide frameworks of thinking, our boxes of identity and being, our patterns, our reality states. Our emotions help create and shape our experiences and perceptual biases.

The emotion or emotions can make any event a powerful picture of who we are in that moment. Depending on the emotions and the nature of the event those emotional frames can also lock us in and leave us feeling trapped within the picture or pattern.

Re-framing is about taking the human emotional content and connection to your story out and just working with the energy patterns present. It is then possible to then let them unfold into something new or different. Consciousness is free to play and evolve as human.

It is an invitation to be honest with ourselves.  People can really play around with this. We can rationalize and reason in our thinking and that will serve to excuse and justify our reactions and behaviors.

How many times did we know something yet fail to make a change when we know why we are behaving or thinking in certain ways? We are not in a state of change. Going into Heart Centered Awareness makes the difference as it is the state of potential.

Consciousness has no attachment to outcome. So in this reality state there are no human emotions directing. It is easier to hold awareness of the forces at play. 

In case you don't have time to listen to the podcast I have outlined some steps to re-framing what might be holding you in positions or patterns that no longer serve.

 Recognize that you have an issue, a pattern, something not enjoyed or wanted. Denial is a powerful state and not helpful. It helps keep the pattern in place. Or we can be very aware of the pattern and associate it with it never changing. Which is then the state of no change.

Access Heart Centered Awareness, Field of Unified Consciousness. This is neutral territory. This is the field of Grace and potential.  

If the emotional frame is not there what do you notice about your issue? Sometimes there is information or wisdom to be connected to or you might just be in awareness that you don't need the patterns any longer and it can change. Just let the information be present.
If it could be different what would that be like?  Let the open ended question come to mind. Notice what comes to mind and what is feels like when the state of reality has shifted. Feel the difference.

Allow for it to be different. It is important to realize that change and difference can happen that quickly. We can also recreate anything. 

Register the change. You will feel something different or notice something that was not there before. Might be relaxation or your own unique way of knowing change is happening. Don't think something is different, feel it different. You may be able to articulate it or not. Notice that you are not relating to the issue in the same way. 

That is the re-frame. 

Janet Barrett
Life in the Beyond/Journeys Into Enlightenment
The link for this podcast episode is.....