One thing that is getting clear and clearing out for each of us energetically is what motivates and inspires us. And, what is important when exploring what is possible in being a human surrounded and living with others.
If we take our reactions and judgments off the words of tenderness and violence we can see that both are movements of energy. What comes to mind is like in the difference of the tender waves a foot tall at times on the east coast of the US and the big waves of Hawaii that thunder on the west coast. Both are waves of energy in motion. They are more subtle in a small wave and easier to manage. We can look to exist with the violence of the energies in the big waves. No matter their size we can ride them like expert surfers or expert onlookers.
In the different groups I facilitated for two days men and women held some same and some different resonances about tenderness and certainly about violence. Not surprising. It made for both passionate and heart warming expressions of being.
Violent expression is intense powerful movement. Tenderness is a more subtle movement. One may lead to a sense of violated in a body, mind, neighborhood, a community, a nation, a people. The other enhances our lives.
Not carrying movement forward is equally valuable. Just think of the inspiration tragedy has for us in not wanting the same for our children and what actions we feel inspired to create and take as a result. We actively choose to transform the violence into tenderness that creates benefit and growth for others.
We have to remember that we are describing a movement of energy in terms of outcome in our labels of tender and violent. In most traditions and cultures the movement of energy is important. For instance, Pele is revered by the Hawaiian culture. She is the goddess of Fire and lightening, wind, dance, volcanoes and violence. She holds a valued place.
A recent show on civilization on television stated that war is the force that moves a society forward and how that happens. It was disturbing and helped me to wake up to some of what is inside to me and in each of us. And how close or how far violence is in any of us at any one time or another. I once more looked at my reality sets in play.
To not judge ourselves and others may seem like such a leap at times. As Consciousness, it is not. We are all Consciousness in form. Stuff happens in our co-creation with each other. People and events are catalysts of movement and we get to decide how to use it in forming, supporting or changing our personal biases about what life means free of gripping emotional pulls.
The waves are all different. Depending on the kind of surfer we each are and our skill levels we may like at times the adrenaline rush and push of our skills on riding the big waves. We may also appreciate just being on the board riding the gentle movement close to shore. Be sure to notice the unseen currents of forces mixing with the big thundering waves and when the waves collapse and lose their force and gently roll up to the beach.
We can always just play on the beach and watch the waves.
Life in the Beyond/Journeys Into Enlightenment